In a recent survey, the number one fear of most men was found to be - "picking up women". Most of them cited this as a terrifying and harrowing ordeal. Something is very wrong for statistics to show that men over 24 fear this more than being hit by a bus or being eaten by a shark.
Most of the problem is caused by the actual fear itself. There is this unspoken rule amongst insecure and shy men to revere these babes as if they were on pedestals, as if they are unobtainable trophies to only be stared at, and never approached to date in any way whatsoever.
They are just people like you and I and I know from experience that the following two seduction secrets will place you on the right path to picking up women with ease.
Confidence Is Key
I'm sure you would agree that it really doesn't matter how you look or what you say to a hot girl, if you come across as terrified; fact of the matter is, she immediately sees you as weak which is not an attractive quality in a man. you see, picking up women is not so much about what you say as to 'how you say it'. Of course your choice of topic will affect your odds, but if you don't look confident there really is no point in opening your mouth.
How Do You Become Confident Around Women?
Whenever you start something new, it will always feel awkward in the beginning, but as time goes by you find things start getting a little easier. To get anything done in life, especially something that you are not used to, or don't particularly want to do, you need to first find the drive to do it. Once you have the drive the follow through becomes a whole lot easier. When it comes to picking up women the drive is not hard to find, especially from a mans perspective. So keep your eyes on the prize and you will be able to roll with the punches while your confidence grows.
Expect to be rejected a couple of times in the beginning, but know that she is not rejecting you as a person but rejecting your approach. How could she reject you for who you are? She couldn't possibly know you personally in such a short space of time. I can tell one thing, even if she rejects your approach, inside she respects you for having the courage to approach her and try. Women get all dressed up and done-up to be attractive, and you actually make their day by approaching them. They cant wait to tell their friends they were hit-on in the coffee shop or wherever by a charming and friendly guy.
Even with the hottest babes this is true because in reality they get hit-on very seldom, so you will stand way out from the crowd of guys who never dare, and you will gain their respect instantly.
Listen To Inspirational Music
Trust me this works for putting you in the right frame of mind instantly. Load some inspirational songs onto your ipod so you can listen to them as you go about your day and when you spot a really hot girl, you can just walk up to her, take the earphones out just before speaking and you will find you are far more fun, relaxed and spontaneous in your approach. She will sense this instantly. Here is what works for me, you can adapt it to suit yourself.
"Hey, I happened to see you across the room, my first thoughts were - wow, you are stunning! I knew that if I didn't come over to say hi, I would regret it all day. "Hi I'm Jim (shake hands) "I hope you're a friendly kind of girl because seeing you just interrupted the chorus of "insert applicable song title here"..."
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